OK - welcome to my Blog. This will most likely be the place where I rant and rave about various and sundry life events. I could rant about men and how they drive me crazy - not knowing what they want until it leaves them or how clueless they seem to be. Or I could rant about how women never learn and don't want to give up the Snow White or Cinderella fantasy - someday our prince will come. Unfortunately we will probably miss the prince because he will look like the frog while we are distracted by the Pretty Boy looking at his reflection in his rearview mirror. I am definitely thinking about kissing a few frogs - I may have had my fill of the Pretties.
Relationships take WORK and not everyone wants to put the work into it. I am not talking just about romance but also friendship. I believe for any relationship to succeed, you have to tend to it. Whether is be your mother, father, daughter, sister, brother, son, niece, nephew or oldest friend, you have to work at the relationship. You have to communicate and let everyone know how you feel about them. You have to treat people as you would like to be treated and not settle for bad behavior. I don't believe in rewarding bad behavior but unless you call people on it, they will continue to behave the same way as they always did.
Why do we call getting married "settling down"? Settling for what? Does it mean stop being yourself, an individual? Do you become half of a couple? An incomplete entity? Or what do they mean by "completing me"? Am I not whole already? Can't I share my life without settling?
I have a friend who just found out her father is mortal. It is a sobering lesson that even in your 40s, you are just not ready to learn. This is a different lesson than when you learn your parents are people with desires and needs and feelings and foibles. I lost my father when I was 20 and not a day goes by that I don't miss him. He won't give me away, dance at my wedding (as was his favorite way of asking you do something for him - his "pretty please with a cherry on top"), help me buy my first house or see his grand children. I know he would be very proud of everything I have accomplished but I also know I wouldn't be here if things had been different. No regrets.
I am so glad that you are going to keep a blog! Do you know why I started one? It's for my kids. There are so many people in my life that have moved away or passed away or faded away, and I'd never have thought that they would not have been a knowable presence in my daily life. These are people that I want my kids to know. I want to give them my stories and memories, and I thought a blog would be a good way of doing it. Good format and a pressure to keep it nice, since the world is reading. I can get pretty acerbic in my ranting, can't I?
ReplyDeleteMy friend, the dreamer. Beneath that tough exterior and biting wit, lurks the heart of a princess in an ivory tower. I am blowing kisses up to your window, silly girl. And that whole bad behavior thing? You have to forgive it and forget it and ignore the hell out it, cause none of us are perfect and you really want the freedom to indulge in your own bad behavior without being kicked out of bed. Obviously, I am not referring to pathological behavior. But even rotten SOB's can make good spouses(well, most of the time). And on the plus side, he will make you look like a saint by contrast. And pretty. And thin. And young. And sweet. And kind. And generous... Yeah.
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ReplyDeleteWell welcome to blogging or being blogged. You know me just a tad (what is a tad anyway)by way of Carol , who is the best niece anyone can ask for.
ReplyDeleteMany of us eventually find the man we can love with our whole heart but you many have to go through several bad ones till you finally come up with the right one for YOU. My best advice is to keep looking, your prince will eventually come. I found my prince on the first try but Carol found her FROG (ops I meant Prince) :o) on the second.
I have a question for you, YOGI. Can I do simple yoga if I am recovering from or living with (the drs. are not sure which of those will apply) painful bulging disks in my lower back. I have to do something because the steroid shots they are pumping in me is causing me to gain weight which I do not need or want. If not I will have to turn sideways to get into Carols house (hehehe).
You can check out my blog if you want. See you again in Jax at Carol's I am sure.
Thanks Tricia. What is your blog? I will definitely check it out. As for yoga - YES!! Check out the yogajournal.com for some poses to help your back. Just some simple standing and maybe sitting poses will help. There is a great book titled The Yoga RX that would be a great resource.
ReplyDeleteFound them Tricia. Cool.
ReplyDeleteThanks April, I am checking out the yoga site. I was also told I can do the yoga think on the Wii Fitness. I have told my hubby I want one of those since I have Mothers Day and Birthday and Anniversary all within a few weeks.
ReplyDeleteMy Blog is http://rankin-file.blogspot.com/